Taking a few minutes to further flesh out the dialogue/monologue I've been having about dating issues this year. During the past couple of months, I'm just more frustrated than I was before because it seems that since the summertime, I'm having a hard time just getting a date. I'm able to meet women, I'm able get phone numbers, but getting a date beyond EMails, chatting and phone calls is hard. I know that some of it is due to the Holiday season--people are busy with all the minutiae of what that entails and that leads to frustration. I've pretty much decided to table asking any woman out on a date until after MLK day in the US just to allow Holidays to end and to get the pressure off my back. I'm also not going out for Christmas Eve, New Year's Eve or any other such Holiday activities other than with Family to save myself the pressure to feel coupled.
The woman from the gym texted me Sunday she'd like to go have coffee with me after the holidays, so maybe there may still be some kind of a chance there. At this point, I'll see what happens, but pretty much I expect nothing to come from this. I don't like being strung along by a woman, so I'll take her at her word--and we'll go dutch to make sure that there's no issues or hard feelings over it.
As for other things that have come up, I want to let y'all know that I have been doing some soul searching as to some of my methods and approaches. I'm not just blaming society or women today, though some of it is probably coming from the attitude of some women. As I said below in my reply to another comment, I know that when I am on Twitter, I lay it on a little thick--but I'm not making sexual innuendos at Tweeps who don't already know me somewhat (and with them, it's an inside joke as we're not involved but just being silly).
Telling a woman that (based upon her profile picture) she is beautiful is not the same thing as saying "Hey Baby! You're hot and have a nice rack and ass! Wanna f**k?" Now that would be just plain rude! I would hope that any of my Women Tweeps that I have said this to did not find my saying sounwelcome. And if they did, they would tell me so privately via Email or DM so I could make it up to them. But in the online realm of Social Media, it's hard to get through to some people. One person's compliment is another's inappropriate advance--but this is not an office or a school in the Social Media Realm, so the rules are not always clear. In real life, a man can approach a woman he doesn't know and say she's beautiful, and she can respond accordingly, and he can read her response via facial gestures and other stuff. Usually it's not the first thing he says to her though, I realize that as well.
Maybe my approach on Twitter should be more like in real life. Say hello. Make a remark about something they said that's interesting or that we have in common. Ask about something they mentioned. Then say that they're beautiful based upon their profile pic. Meh... we'll see...
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